tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6203542391773710405.post7745874133247919439..comments2009-05-29T15:44:51.672-04:00M &amp; Mhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05756161406662847295noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6203542391773710405.post-38149577756446085342009-05-29T15:44:51.672-04:002009-05-29T15:44:51.672-04:00Hello:<br /><br />I saw your web-blog. I think it is excellent. Iam from Cuba, but I live in USA. I would like to changes links. I have 2 blogs...<br />I hope you respond soon!<br /><br />www.pasajedeportivo.blogspot.com<br /><br />http://del-verde-caiman.nireblog.com<br /><br />RAFAEL.Rafael Rofeshttp://www.pasajedeportivo.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6203542391773710405.post-43421112339351375932009-05-19T01:59:00.000-04:002009-05-19T01:59:00.000-04:00Hello Anonymous!<br /><br />Firstly, thanks for the compliments on the blog. They're very much appreciated. :)<br /><br />Secondly, I want to start off by saying that I'm probably not the best person to ask about long distance relationships. My boyfriend and I met during undergrad and have been dating ever since - so we've been together for 4 years. Up until 12 days ago, we had never spent more than a day or two apart. So, this long distance situation is very, very new to me. <br /><br />And I can honestly say, that I'm not dealing with it very well. Even though we speak multiple times a day over webcam using Skype, I often find that I miss him unbearably. And even though I love it here in the Bahamas so much more than in Dominica, I find that I'm very lonely here without my significant other. Unfortunately, nothing has assuaged that yearning for him yet. Perhaps it'll get better as time passes ... ?<br /><br />So, I'm sorry to say that I can't offer much advice. :( I think that if you've been with your boyfriend for a while and love him immensely, you are going to miss him TERRIBLY no matter what you do. Obviously, make sure you both have a webcam. Sometimes seeing my boyfriend on the webcam makes me feel more sad and then there are days that I find it a comfort that I can at least see him. So, get the webcam and see how it works out for you. And, if at all possible, see if there is any way that he can visit you in Dominica mid-semester or if you can make it back home after a Mini. I know the chances of this are slim since a roundtrip to Dominica and back is costs minimum $1,000.00. (This is one of the main reasons I moved to the Bahamas. The much cheaper airfare allows for you to go home or for people to come to you during the semester.) <br /><br />Also, you may want to have a sit-down with your boyfriend and iron out some agreements. For example, my boyfriend and I have an agreement that no matter what, we'll talk first thing in the morning and we'll talk right before we go to bed at night. And whatever phone calls that may occur during the day are bonus. But we ensure that we at least speak twice a day.<br /><br />Also, you can set some boundaries. Figure out what will and won't make you comfortable during your time apart. For example, are you cool with your boyfriend going out to a bar or club without you? Will he be all right with you going out for some drinks to a local bar after a Mini? These are things you have to discuss with each other. Iron out what'll make each other comfortable and agree to respect those boundaries. I know I've done this with my boyfriend and it has made this whole situation more bearable.<br /><br />That's all I've got. I really wish I had more advice and more pearls of wisdom for you but it seems that I'm in need of the same advice. :) Long distance is hard. REALLY hard. But, if you're both willing to work at it, then you should survive this time apart. At least that's the way I look at it.<br /><br />I wish you the best of luck. :)M &amp; Mhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05756161406662847295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6203542391773710405.post-6834516515098859532009-05-18T21:28:00.000-04:002009-05-18T21:28:00.000-04:00Hey Melissa,<br /><br />I've recently discovered your blog and found it to be most helpful. I'm preparing to move to Dominica this fall. Your tips for adjusting to the island are insightful. You mentioned something that I was wondering if you could touch on a little more: the fact that your boyfriend is now living in Miami and you in the Bahamas. I too have a boyfriend who will be staying at home while I travel abroad. Any advice on how to deal with the distance?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com